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Why Changing Habits is Such an Uphill Battle

- Harika Reddy

Intern, July- August 2023


We've all been there: the New Year's resolution fervently made, the gym membership purchased with enthusiasm, the book on mindfulness untouched on the bedside table. Somewhere along the journey, the spark dwindles, and old habits resurface. Why is it that despite our best intentions, changing habits feels tantamount to scaling Everest?


The Brain's Comfort Zone: At the heart of habit formation lies the brain. Our brain is an efficient machine. When we repeat a behavior, the brain starts to use less energy to perform it. Over time, actions transform from conscious decisions to automatic responses. Think of it as the brain's economy mode. While it ensures we don't reinvent the wheel every day, it also means that established patterns (good or bad) get a neurological leg-up.



The Gravity of Instant Gratification: Modern society is awash in instant rewards. Whether it's the dopamine rush from a social media notification or the sugary bliss from a bite of a doughnut, we're conditioned to seek immediate pleasure. New habits often promise long-term rewards, which, despite being more fulfilling, can't match the allure of instant gratification.


Identity and Self-Image: Our habits are intrinsically tied to our self-perception. Someone who identifies as a 'night owl' might struggle to adopt an early morning routine, not merely because of the schedule shift, but due to an internal clash with their self-image. Change, then, demands an evolution of identity, challenging the stories we've long told ourselves.


Environment and Triggers: The settings and routines that surround us significantly impact our habits. An individual trying to cut down on caffeine will find it challenging if they pass by their favorite coffee shop every day. It’s not just about personal resolve; it's about redesigning familiar landscapes and setting up cues that align with our new aspirations.


The Myth of 21 Days: Popular lore suggests that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. However, research from University College London reveals it's more nuanced. On average, it takes 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic, with some habits requiring even longer. Thus, expecting a swift transformation can lead to disillusionment.



Charting a Way Forward

Recognizing these challenges doesn't mean resigning to a life dictated by old habits. Instead, it's about recalibrating expectations and strategies. Some steps for effective habit change include:


1. Micro-Changes: Instead of dramatic overhauls, consider small shifts. If you're trying to read more, start with a page a night.

2. Anchor to Existing Habits: Want to Meditate? Do it after a habitual morning task, like brushing your teeth.

3. Environment Design: If junk food is the pitfall, don't rely on willpower alone. Remove it from your pantry.

4. Celebrate Progress: Instead of lamenting setbacks, celebrate milestones. Every effort, no matter how small, is a step toward change.


In a world that often feels accelerated, the age-old adage remains true: slow and steady wins the race. As we strive to redefine ourselves, remembering the science and psychology behind habit formation can guide our path, making the journey not just effective but also compassionate.




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