-Nanditha Gururaj
Intern, Mind Splatters, Nov-Dec 2023
Grief is a strong, sometimes overpowering emotion for people, regardless of whether their sadness arises from the loss of a loved one or from a fatal diagnosis received by themselves or someone they care about. They may feel numb and disconnected from normal life, unable to carry out regular duties yet burdened by their sense of loss. Grief is a natural response to loss. Grief is a universal as well as a particular sensation. Individual grieving experiences differ and are influenced by the nature of the loss. The death of a loved one, the end of an important relationship, job loss, loss due to theft, or loss of independence due to disability are all examples of loss.
Unfortunately, because there is so much misinformation regarding dealing with loss, many people will just be unable to assist you. This isn't to say you shouldn't strive to acquire their assistance; just don't be too hurt or disappointed if they can't provide you with what you require. Some of the difficulties encountered by those around you include: not knowing what to say to you, being uncomfortable discussing feelings in general, let alone grief, feeling the need to change the subject, believing that keeping busy is the best way to deal with your pain, believing they can intellectually talk you out of your pain, not even being able to use the word "death," or suggesting that you die.
It is critical to realize that the death of someone close to us changes us forever. Our lives will be forever changed, but the good news is that, depending on how we handle it, sadness can also result in substantial psychological and spiritual growth. We can recover from the loss, and the most extreme agony will recede, but the emotional scar will remain. Many people believe that grieving is a lifetime process. If the loss is serious, it changes your life path and possibly your identity. Also, after death, you form a new type of bond with your loved one, one based on their memories and spirit rather than their physical body.
More important than anything else when we grieve is to be able to be open about our feelings to someone else we trust and appreciate. Healing will not and cannot take place if you hold all of your emotions inside. This may be unfamiliar to those who are not used to discussing emotions, but it is equally as beneficial. The expression only needs to be truthful. Discuss what you miss, what you don't miss, the type of person they were, your loss of shared future goals and dreams, your loneliness, rage, and despair.
It is important to focus on fundamental self-care routines when dealing with anything very emotional, including bereavement. These include getting enough sleep, eating a nutritious and balanced diet, exercising regularly, and including pleasurable activities in your daily routine. Self-care is frequently neglected while people are mourning because they are depressed and lack the energy or will to care for themselves. Unfortunately, this will exacerbate your pain because how we feel physically influences how we feel emotionally.
People who are grieving can rediscover their joy. While you cannot avoid pain, you may improve the process by exploring healthy methods to connect with people and care for yourself. You can also seek professional help to deal with grief. Reach out today!
The mentioned strategies are so helpful for anyone trying to relieve themselves of their grieving pain! ✨
indeed a helpful piece! so well written ✨
The piece is so mindful and informative!
Very well-written!